October 22, 2007
Dining Alone? Pull
Up a Chair for Chit Chat with Roger!
Do you have to speak
to the person seated next to you when you’re dining out?
If it’s family I
know you’re not required to, but in a restaurant with strangers the
protocol’s a tad fuzzy. It can be an awkward situation. You’re temporary
dining companions, kind of. If you’re seated at the bar or counter as it
were, you’re sitting mere inches away from each other. How can you
not talk?
It’s kind of like
the U.S./Mexico border situation. Hey, we’re sharing the same border and
air, you might as well pay for our schooling, health care, give us your
jobs and assist us with housing. OK, OK, that was a stretch. I
apologize.
For example, I
travel a lot and find myself dining alone quite often (at least, I think
that’s the reason.) If I’m seated at a table by myself I’ll scoot my
chair over to the table closest to me and initiate small talk if that
person is also dining alone. I seem to have a certain knack for spotting
lonely people who would enjoy a bit of chit chat with their meal. It’s a
gift.
Roger:
Hi! What’s shaking? Eating alone, I see. Oh, hey, they have really
good Calamari here. Sorry, I was eating alone and saw you sitting here
alone too and figured you – OK, I will, I’ll do that. OK then, nice to
have met you as well. Thank you. See you soon.
Sometimes people
aren’t always up for company.
When I’m eating
alone I dislike it when people impose themselves on my space and time.
If I’m seated at a barstool at a restaurant, I can tell when someone’s
longing for chit chat, waiting for the green light to strike up a
conversation, especially if they’ve had a few. They’re slumped over the
bar, chin on their chest, mouth agape, eyes rolled back into their head.
If I’m not in the
mood for small talk, I don’t want to encourage it by giving them an
opening to jump in. You’ve been there. You can feel the desperation in
the air. It’s thick with loud sighs and sudden glances your way. You’d
like the pepper but then you’d have to let him in. The hell with it, I
don’t need seasoning. I’m part English. He’s already on his third
martini and he’s been here less than 30 minutes. He must work for the
Democratic National Committee. There’s no way I’m talking to this idiot.
I don’t want to hear his views.
And then there’s
“restaurant stranger betrayal”. This is where the tardy friend of the
drunk that you didn’t want to speak to in the first place arrives and
the drunk doesn’t bother to make introductions or anything. They just up
and leave. You extended yourself. You allowed this schmuck, this
ingrate, into your space and world. You opened emotional veins, told him
about your experience with certain banned substances, your uncle’s
affiliation with certain “hate groups” and your sister-in-law’s
relationship problems, and now, not so much as a goodbye. You bastard!
Now your self esteem
plummets . . . again. You’re on the phone with the suicide hotline.
“Hello, suicide hotline? Yes, I’m a mess. I was just dumped from another
relationship. I don’t know what the problem is . . . one moment we’re
having dinner and drinks, communicating with each other and it’s
beautiful, and then their friend shows up. It’s like I didn’t exist. I
can’t take any more rejection. I’m killing myself as soon as I finish
eating my cheesecake. What’s that? I’m having the chocolate mousse.
Yeah, it’s my favorite too. I feel better now. Hey, what took you so
long to answer the phone? The suicide hotline has caller I.D.?”
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