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okay i have been with my bf for 5 years now i have 2 children and one on the way in june. i have a problem our sex lives since we have had children is like 2 a week it use to be more before we had children im talkin like 3 times a day sometimes. okay.... at night he had admitted to me that he watches porn when i go to sleep! should i be aware of something? or is this jus a guy thing? is it cuz i feel unattractive cuz im big and pregnant. he told me i am not into him nemore. but i dont mean to be that way. i jus am not in the mood as much now that i am further along. what should i do? he expects me to jus jump on him and get it on. lol any suggestions? should i jus watch porn with him and see whats its like and maybe try something new or what? plz im not mad about the porn i told him it doesnt really bother me that he watches it.... i jus wanna be sexy again. u know what i mean. but newayz any uggestions would help!

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  • 1 decade ago
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    you're pregnant, raising two kids, and tired which doesn't help. try to find some time where you two are alone. not just before bed. give him attention. make him feel like a king for a day. this is what i did recently. i cooked a dinner, gave him a massage, watch a porn movie with him, and then everything else happened from there. it's not much but i knew it helped. i sent the older kids to the movie and had my daughter's dad watch my youngest. i try to do this every other week. it made me feel good that he still wanted me and i took care of him. i don't know if it will make you feel sexy but for him to want me did.

    be happy he's watching porn instead of doing other things....

    good luck and keep your head up.

    Source(s): 39 weeks w/one 5 yo girl, 2 teen step daughters, and our baby girl on the way.
  • 1 decade ago

    I am 22 weeks w/ #2 and have completely lost my sex drive as well. We have had sex 3 times since I found out I was pregnant, in January. I don't think he watches porn...he's asleep before I am at night but I wouldn't blame him if he did lol. Watching it together may get you in the mood. I know the last time we were intimate I suprised him by putting on a sexy little lingerie outfit thing....made me feel good about myself and excited him too lol. It's hard to want to have sex when you just DON'T WANT TO, and I feel bad for my hubby so I try to get myself into the mood but it's harder than it sounds. Good luck and I am sure you look great!

    Source(s): 22 weeks w/ #2
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Watch porn with him, chances are you'll like it and it'll put you in the mood. I watch it with my husband sometimes. I feel unsexy alot of the time and the only way I feel even remotely pretty is to do my hair,make up and put on some nice cloths. Even if Im not going anywhere, I do it. Also try finding a sitter, and go on a date with him. Just this past weekend My hubby and I went on a dinner and movie date. Just something for us, before we have our baby(also due in june.). Good luck, and Ihope you can figure something out:)

  • 1 decade ago

    Porn can have a negative effect on a relationship. The more you check out of each other an into another outlet, the bigger hole you dig for yourselves. I think what you both need to do is talk to each other. My husband and I went through a phase where I just really didn't want to, I was tired and really just wanted to veg out most of the time. When I started making the effort for the relationship (meeting each other emotionally)...I started to be more attracted to him and want the sex part of the relationship back. I know it's tough with 2 kids and being pregnant (I'm in the exact same family situation), but you have to make the effort for each other. One thing we started to do, which sounds silly, but really is worth it, is schedule a babysitter regularily and then block off that time for each other to be alone together...have a date, be romantic and let yourself get back into each other again. It's so much easier to want the sex, when it isn't just "let's do it", but instead you want each other.

  • 1 decade ago

    tell him you dont feel comfortable doing it being pregnant now that your farther along. sex wont hurt or poke the baby but its normal to not want to and feel uncomfortable about it. explain it to him, and even after you have your baby you probly wont want sex for a while because you have a newborn plus 2 other children to take care of. its not that you dont want to, its just that your body cant take it because youre too tired at the end of the day. try to plan a relaxing day with a family member babysitting then do something new with him, i doubt hes watching porn because he doesnt think youre sexy anymore, he probly just wants sex like every other guy and isnt getting any because youre pregnant. dont feel bad about it ive heard of a lot of guys doing this, but if he becomes addicted to it then its a problem. its ok to watch it with him if you feel ok to. i have heard that this helps relationships sometimes and shows you new things you can try together, as long as both of you are ok with it. im not saying it will always help your sex life, but it works sometimes

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Its normal to feel that way. Your body makes big changes and having children does take your time. I read that if you feel sexy and act confident that than thne guy thinks of you as sexy. I read it in one f those whats on a mans mind book. It was really good to read. You can try watch porn, im not much of a fan of it, but my man watches it sometimes when im buggered and just cant be bothered.

  • 1 decade ago

    I simply think that is not that your not sexy is just that you are to close to your due date and some man. Are uncountable doing it that far in to the pregnancy I know because I have 10 brother and 7 out the ten fill that they may hurt the baby and fill weird about. But, they still always love their wife and never though they were not sexy... You will be fine don't worry take care of you self and be patient is not much longer.

  • 1 decade ago

    All you have to do to be sexy again, is believe that you are. I went through something very similar, where I just stopped desiring to be with my husband as I went further along and he felt a little neglected. I promise you, he doesn't think you're gross at all! I think that if you are willing to try watching with him and seeing what happens, you should go for it! however, just beware! Don't let yourself become even more down on yourself after seeing the women in the video. Good luck!

  • 5 years ago

    Titanium doesn't rust. After you have your nose pierced, you arent supposed to change the jewelry until its healed (if you try, the piercing could close up or get infected) as for the pain, I personally think its comparable to having the cartlidge at the top of your ear pierced. I'm in California, and the price was $30, including jewelry. As far as the jewelry coming out, it shouldn't do so unless you pull on it, or wipe your face with a towel (Ive done this coming out of the shower when I first got my piercing..its possible.) if you really worry that youll forget its there and "wipe" it out, make sure the piercer puts the "curvy" stud and not a nose "bone" (straight) that should help, as it takes some "twisting" to get the curvy kind out. Hope that helped. Good luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    Well there is nothing you can really do as of now because you are almost due and your stomach is in the way. But that does not have to stop you all from being romantic. I am in the same situation and I am due in june also(LOL).But be patient he will be in your butt, soon as you have that baby and get back to your old self

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