How has your relationship with your boyfriend/husband changed since you had a child?

Definitely harder. Your focus changes completely from being there or each other to being there for the baby.

You are tired, cranky, maybe worried about money etc., and not feeling particularly sexy since you have baby weight and hardly have time to shower or shave your legs. And going to movies or dinner together almost seems like a thing of the past.

But if you are lucky (like me!), you and your husband develop a wonderful bond that is stronger than ever before.

We have been married for 15 years, our only child is 4 and we are more in love now than ever - but it has not always been easy. If you respect one another and speak your mind before resentments build up, you will be ok.

Good luck!

I would have to disagree with all the others. My husband and my realtionship has changed but for the better. I feel closer to him now that we have a child together. We actually have 4 children together. We dont get much alone time but we new that was going to be the case when we had children. We make the best of it and do family things. Im only 29 so when they are all out of my house (18 right!?) There will be plenty of alone time. Make it what you want.

With my (ex) husband: it became awful. He lost all interest in all of us (we had two children together). He cheated on me and became violent towards the end.

With my boyfriend it's different. He loves being a daddy. We have an awesome relationship and he is more father in ten minutes than my ex was all day.

I have thought long and hard about the ex, and the only thing I can think of is that when we first got married, they said that we would never have a child. I think that he was happy with that and didn't want children. My boyfriend knew there were children when he got with me, so he knew that being a father was part of his new life. He welcomed it. Our schedule allows us to be able to have time alone and time with the children and time as a family, so no one ever feels neglected.

We have to make dates and get a babysitter - but the biggest change is that we bicker a little more - we are both tired more and get tired of the other person more easily.

Sex happens a lot less cause we just want some sleep.

But I think in general we are a lot closer and love each other in a different way.

My relationship with my husband has changed in two ways. We are both too tired for sex. We are both critical of each other about what is best for the baby. Sometimes it feels like a competition. We both want what is best but we both have different ideas about what is best and it leads to disagreements.

I don't have a kid either, but i do notice the difference in other relationships. Honestly, im waiting untill I'm 30-35 till i have any kids.

yes its so gone we dont even talk any more everything is for the baby and sleeping i hope thing get better for u dont let the love between u to go