I'm 17 weeks pregnant, and my father wants me to get my baby annointed, but I'm not religious like him?

I don't believe that getting a baby annointed or blessed or christened determines the rest of their lives. They are going to have their own minds and their own choices to make. I also believe in (if you don't have your own religion) that teaching your child that there are many different religions and letting them make their own decisions - when they are at an appropriate age is terrific.

That being said - that I don't think something done at such a young age will make a difference to the baby -

giving in to your fathers wishes at this point may set you up for doing it the rest of the babies life. It may make a difference because then your father will say "well, he's this religion because we annointed him..." and try to take him to church, etc.

If you don't want that, I suggest you start putting your foot down right away.

Some grandparents don't interfere at all, but some grandparents try to influence every little decision and butt in all the time - no one wants that.

You just have to say "this is my son/daughter and while I appreciate your concern, this is the way I have decided to handle this situation."

My dad didn't want us to leave my son uncircumcised - he even got really upset about it, but I just said "thanks for your advice, but this is what we are doing" - he still says things about it sometimes, but what can you do?

Good luck!

You know, I personally agree with you. Though your father shouldn't really have a say in what you guys do, your husband *should.*

Keep in mind that just because you have a baby baptized or anointed, it doesn't mean that they can't change their minds later, regardless of what the church says. You and your husband just need to come to an agreement on how you're going to raise the baby as far as religious issues go.

My friends Lauren and Noah have a child. Lauren's actually pagan and Noah is a die-hard Catholic... believe it or not. Lauren agreed to having the baby baptized in the Catholic church as long as he could be raised knowing that there ARE other options out there. So not only does she get a say in how that child is raised religiously, but she also made out LIKE A BANDIT when it came to cash and gifts for the baby.

Everybody's happy!

he's only attempting to scare you and use capacity over you. in case you're the two greater wholesome father and mom (neither doing drugs, alcohol, and so on), then you will in all danger the two get 50/50 joint actual custody of the youngster. this is often what maximum states and judges rule in want of on the beginning up. regardless of if, that being mentioned, if he makes use of medicine, drinks, is abusive, and so on., initiate documenting what you could now. save information, copies of text textile messages, emails, pictures, and so on someplace else (in keeping with danger a parent or buddy's domicile?) to deliver at the same time "dirt" on him. Then, whilst the toddler is born, record for custody and newborn help, and decide for comprehensive. modern the info you have amassed to the choose and it will teach that he's an undeserving parent and he will in all danger get lessened visitation through fact of it. yet like I mentioned, if he's a sparkling, stable dad, you will in all danger the two get joint because it is the way the courts want it.

It's not your fathers choice or decision to make for you.

You and your spouse need to be the ones to decide and when you do you need to be in full agreement.

God made us all. What you are doing is dedicating your baby back to him. It's your choice but your baby is going to be forced to make a decision to nurse or not and you will have to teach him that...you might as well teach him to love his maker.

I completely agree with you. It should be your child's choice for something like that. I would waite till they are old enough to descide for themselves.