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Anonymous asked in Pregnancy & ParentingGrade-Schooler · 1 decade ago

How many different toys do we have to buy before the kids stop fighting over the same one?

We are up to past 50 toys now, and my younger siblings still manage to fight over the same one day by day.

Two days ago we got a bunch of balloons for all the kids, they managed to fight over 1 balloon constantly until we just decided to pop them all and never buy them again.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    They aren't really fighting over toys. They are fighting over control, and they are fighting for your attention...which one of us is mom and dad going to side with? Make perfectly clear at play time what will happen if there is any fighting...that the toy will be taken away and no one will get to play with it for the rest of the day, and they will be separated. Then, teach them some methods of settling disputes peacefully and learning to compromise. With my kids, we got a one of those wind up kitchen timers...one of them would get the toy for a certain amount of time, then the other one would. Flipping a coin and rolling dice work nicely too. Make sure at the first sign of trouble that you end things though, and end them in a way that is bad for the both of them. You'll be the bad guy instead of the sibling, and eventually they will learn to work together to solve problems in an acceptable way.

  • 1 decade ago

    I know with my boys I buy two of everything so they each have one of the toy which helps with the fighting however there will always be testing to see how much one can handle. If they do start to fight over a toy I put that toy away for the rest of the day and let them know it is because they couldn't get along with it and share as they should.

  • 1 decade ago

    Stop buying toys, and if they fight over one, you take it and put it away for the rest of the day. When you give it back, you tell them to share it, or you'll put it away again.

    A lot of children want something, because the other has it - but they need to learn how to share.

  • 1 decade ago

    My roommate and I each have a dog. If one has a bone, the other one is fighting for it. When the other one gets it, he or she drops it. It ain't about the toy, it's about jacking with the other dog. Same thing with your kid. Stop buying toys. Sounds to me like you have enough. Within reason, let them settle this themselves. If it gets out of hand, take ALL the toys away and tell them if they can't share then no one gets anything. You have GOT to take control. If they can't share then everyone loses. No toys for anyone. YOU ARE THE PARENT!!! Be one. Good luck.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Kids are easily caught by greed. Even if they have plenty, if someone else is having fun with something, they get jealous. Buying more toys won't help, they'll always want to have what their siblings have. You just have to make them share what they have. They should be greatful to be so lucky to get so much!

  • 1 decade ago

    dont let them have any toys till they behave right! my daughter and her cousins are always fighting over the same toy...so i just take all of the toys away and lock them in my daughters room. i sit them down till they calm down and explain to them that they cant be fighting like that or they cant play with any toys....theyre 3 and 2 and they dont fight afterwards...well until the next time...but theyre getting way better. good luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    It's not really about the toys. It's about who's in charge, and who gets what they want. It's a version of survival of the fittest right in your home. Parents need to train that out of the kids, or they end up being grasping, ill-mannered teens, adults, workers, spouses, and parents.

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

    Your suitable wager, i'm afraid, is a canines coach/behaviorist. we won't be able to allow you to be attentive to (and additionally you in all probability are no longer experienced sufficient your self to declare) why he's being aggressive. it may be something from loss of socialization, concern, stress, possessive aggression, etc. except you be attentive to WHY you do no longer in all probability be attentive to a thank you to repair (as there are a pair different strategies available finding on reason in the back of the aggression.) fixing him could help, yet some behaviors are no longer as a results of hormones and territorial spats. If he's gotten away with this habit for a mutually as then fixing him can no longer scientific care it. If there is (in his innovations) a stable reason to be aggressive then fixing him won't help the two. till you are able to cough up the dough for a coach i might save your canines muzzled in public and/or removed from different canines. i might artwork on attempting to maintain his interest on you - tutor him to look at you while commanded. initiate interior the dwelling house, then circulate to the backyard, then circulate to doing it on walks. If he shows too lots pastime in something, get his interest. do no longer handle him for the aggressive habit (IE feed treats to get his interest)- if he turns into aggressive then you truly could regain his interest with out treats (get in front of him, leash pops, etc) and as quickly as his interest is lower back on you (IE not greater looking at different canines, not greater ruffled fur, eye touch with you) you are able to handle that habit. do no longer attempt to socialize him at this factor. you actual prefer an journey handler around to allow you to be attentive to what his physique language is signifying and the thank you to break up or are watching for an aggressive reaction from him.

  • Rachel
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    it is about teaching them to share rather than keep buying them things

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    This will never end! It's an on-going battle...

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