There's a good reason sex-advice columns are flled with letters from snot-suckers and shit-eaters, DANISTHEMAN: They're freaks, their problems are interesting and the answers aren't always obvious. Your letter, on the other hand, is pretty damn dull -- in fact, I'd go so far as to say it's the dullest letter I've ever run. And your question? "Is it love?" That's precisely the kind of problem a young man is forced to take to his parents, because no one else on earth besides his parents could give even the teeniest, tiniest, turdiest shit. A nice, normal young man with a run-of-the-mill crush on a nice, normal young woman? Is there anything duller?

But, hey, here's some advice: Are you truly in love with this girl? Only time will tell. Ask her out, date her and if you're still crazy about her after 50 years of marriage, well, it was love.

So if DANISTHEMAN's letter is so dull, I hear other readers murmuring, "Why are you running it?" Because he's provided me with an opportunity to send a very important message to everyone who reads my column: ENOUGH WITH STRAINED ACRONYMS ALREADY. The reason I started making acronyms out of people's sign-offs, folks, was to save space. Alert readers noticed and soon were creating cute little sign-offs that, once they were turned into acronyms, spelled out something short and sweet -- like SNOT or SHIT or FUCK. But things have been getting out of hand on the acronym front. While I appreciate everyone's efforts -- and in the case of DANISTHEMAN, the sentiment -- endless sign-offs that spell out clunky, run-on sentences don't really save me any space. So save yourselves the trouble, acronym fans, because I'm not running any more sign-offs that result in acronyms longer than fve letters.

My boyfriend broke up with me after a short relationship (six weeks). A few of my single friends say that I had sex with him too soon. I've just gotten back into the dating pool (after a divorce and a long recovery period), and I'm wondering how long one is supposed to hold out. I slept with him after seven dates. I really liked him, but did I look cheap to him? I even dressed up in skirts and sexy nylons to please him on our dates (per his request) and really tried to please him and make him happy. Am I so off-base to think that this is the way to get a guy, or do I have to play games and act hard to get? What is going on out there? Or is he just an asshole?

When in doubt, CONFUSED, always assume the other person is an asshole. If you were writing in after suffering through a string of similar breakups, well, I might tell you to look inside. But getting dumped by one guy after six weeks? That doesn't really prove anything. All we know for sure is that, for whatever reason, it didn't work out with Mr. Skirt and Panties. The willingness of your friends to fnd fault with you tells us more about them -- they're assholes too -- than it does about what went wrong with Mr. SAP.

I'm a woman looking for a domination/submission thing. I met this guy online. Here's the issue, in short: I don't have a pic of him or a real name. He claims he'll give this all to me when we meet. We're supposed to meet for a quick coffee just to see how things go. We have talked on the phone, but I still have nothing else. Should I hold out for a pic and a name or should I just meet him, with a friend, in a public place?

If you tell him that you're nervous about meeting him without knowing his real name and he still won't come tell you, well, that's a very bad sign. If he's unwilling to make you feel comfortable and safe about just your frst meeting, how is this guy going to treat you and what regard will he have for your comfort levels once you're, say, tied up in the midst of a D/S scene? There are plenty of other kinky guys out there, DSC, so don't settle for someone who gives you the creeps or acts like one.

Hi, Dan. Straight girl here who loves your column. Giddy admiration aside, I have a problem: As time progresses I fnd myself more and more attracted to women. My frst sexual experience was with a woman. So it's pretty apparent that I'm a bisexual. But I don't know who I can talk to about my sudden realization or how I can meet other bisexual women. I go to a rather large university and have been dating men consistently for the past few years, but I want women. What can I do? Thanks.

Finding another bisexual college girl at a large university is about as diffcult as fnding a beer bong on frat row -- if you can't fnd one, you're not looking very hard. According to the new issue of Details (yes, the one with Ashton Kutcher on the cover), people under 25 are all freakin' bisexual these days -- even the boys. While some might be tempted to dismiss the story as so much wishful thinking on the part of Details editors (especially the part about the boys), I know for a fact that it's true. Once upon a time on American college campuses, only girls could be casually bisexual, dabble a bit and still be taken seriously when they claimed to be straight after graduation. Now straight guys are being cut similar sexual slack, and I think that's just swell.

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